I am frustrated that my first job has become a nightmare

I’ve only had two days of formal training, and have no faith in my manager. Should I leave at the end of my probation?

Each Friday and Monday we publish the problems that will feature in a forthcoming Dear Jeremy advice column in the Guardian Money supplement so that readers can offer their own advice and suggestions. We then print the best of your comments alongside Jeremy’s own insights. Here is the latest dilemma – what are your thoughts?

I am in my first job and am struggling to get to grips with it. I have been there three months, with another three months of my probation to go. When I started I was already nervous as they mentioned I’d be “learning on the job”. Since then, I have had two days of formal programming training, which is extremely basic, compared to my day-to-day work.

My manager knows nothing about programming and I have little faith in a manager who can’t understand the work I am trying to do. I have asked him for advice, but he says I should talk to other people fulfilling similar duties (using different methodologies) in other departments. I have asked others for help, but few understand the work I am doing. I am frustrated and angry that my first job has become such a nightmare.

I feel I’m failing, but I’m at a loss. I am as qualified as other people in the office, but I feel isolated and alone as my role is unique. I feel unsupported and I am regularly made to feel like an idiot. Moreover, my manager has posted two vacancies – one which sounds remarkably similar to my job role.

Should I cut my losses and leave at the end of my probation, or will I look like I’m inadequate – despite achieving in the top 5% for my maths degree. When do I admit I have simply been defeated and move on to a less challenging career?

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