I’m finding it increasingly hard to cope with his bullying and stupidity, but there’s nowhere to turn for help
On Friday and Monday we publish the problems that will feature in a forthcoming Dear Jeremy advice column in the Guardian Money supplement, so readers can offer their own advice and suggestions. We then print the best of your comments alongside Jeremy’s own insights. Here is the latest dilemma – what are your thoughts?
I have been working at the same company for more than a year now. At first I thought my boss was just an oddball, but since Christmas he has become a complete bully. He is ridiculously stupid and it is unfair that someone this idiotic should be the boss of anyone, but hey, mummy and daddy left him money and so he has a company.
He doesn’t listen to what anyone has to say and always blames everyone else but his own bad judgment. On one occasion I had to explain the same thing to him 26 times but he still didn’t get it so I gave up. I don’t cry often or get angry and I care very much about the kind of job I am doing, but I am finding it more and more difficult to cope because he is constantly putting me down. Since Christmas I have had to leave the office at least once a day to calm myself down and not show weakness or show him that his behaviour is affecting me.
I can take criticism if it’s accurate and worthy, but he gives me grief just for the hell of it and I’ve had enough. Since it’s a very small company, he is the top boss so I can’t complain to anyone higher up, and we certainly don’t have a union so I feel stuck. I’m in a foreign country and learning the language so finding a new job isn’t as easy. What do I do?
• For Jeremy’s and readers’ advice on a work issue, send a brief email to firstname.lastname@example.org. Please note that he is unable to answer questions of a legal nature or reply personally.